The Love Bubble
Why do abusers syndicate the love channel for us? These individuals promote a common theme with their victims — “We love you. We’re giving you a secret love that you need. Warmth is with us.” Their lies make many of us return to them time and time again.
Do you realize how many victims believe this as truth? I’ve heard it over and over as a common thread between us. We fall prey to their schemes when we allow their lies to become our truths.
Take Lolita as an example. If you look up the definition to that name, here’s what you’ll find: a pubescent girl who is sexually precocious or who is regarded in sexual terms by an older person.
Wow! Just wow. Still, many of us fall down underneath their lies?
I’ve heard a grown man regard himself as, “a sexy 5 year old.” He believed he was so sexy that’s why the woman molested him. Unfortunately, he carried a perversion with him in his grown sexuality.
Is it a good thing to believe in these evil tales?
While the abuse is happening our minds can dictate some form of survival and turn the event into a love thing. I get it.
Here’s the danger: we carry that abusive form of love with us into our adult lives.
Separating and learning what true love represents is a daunting task for many of us. When abuse feels like love, how do you even know what real love feels like?
When I read in the bible, “Let love and faithfulness never leave you,” I am stretched to find what that means. What if I’ve never had love and faithfulness? How can I let them leave me when I don’t really know what they are?
You know why I’ve struggled with all that I am to tell the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth — so help me God?
It is the only way to clarity, the only path to freedom, and the only way to unravel the schemes of the predator.
Our stories must be told one to another. It is the only way to remove the veil that abuse left over our minds, our hearts and our very souls.
Here’s to the future! I look on it and smile.
Originally published at http://prisonerbynocrimeofmyown.com on May 13, 2021.