Bits ‘n B

3 min readApr 16, 2024

Each week on Tuesday we will answer an anonymous message received at or through DM. There are 60 million survivors of childhood sexual crimes. One in nine don’t report. The real number of victims is staggering but no one wants to talk about it. We will. If you need anonymous advice from Jesus’ girls coming through this tragedy, please send an email.

We received this email:

I’m very new to this and not sure how this works and I’m only sending this email because I need my truth to be heard by someone.

You recently had an interview with (name withheld) who is actually my mother. My mother has 4 kids and she stole our innocence from all of us.

I am not sending this email to bash her or ruin anything for her in anyway I am just so tired of her living in a world full of lies and ignoring the truth. She physically and verbally abused me and my siblings from the time I was 7 till I was 15. From the time I was 14 I was in and out of the street with no guidance or parents. My mother never cared where I was for the night all she cared about was whatever boyfriend she had in her house.

I cannot continue to let her go on platforms and social media and try to play the victim when all she did was nothing but abuse and hurt us. Even though me and her aren’t in great terms I pray god can heal her and help her acknowledge what she did to us.

Again I am in no way trying to ruin her life or relationships I just want my truth to be heard as well.

Feel free to contact me here anytime. Keep doing God’s work and stay blessed.”


Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for your trust. I agree that your side of the story needs to be heard. A childhood friend used to say, “No matter how flat you fry a pancake, there are always two sides.”

A parent who withholds the kinds of truth your story outlines is a liar. Lying by omission is still lying. Denying past situations where accountability is due are what abusers hold onto. Your words are fire against your mother’s obligations to you.

I want to tell you the things that you need to hear. I am sorry that your childhood didn’t hold safety for you. I’m sorry that you felt alone against the world and wholly disappointed. I am sorry that the people who gave you life neglected their roles as parents to you. I am truly sorry that the accountability you seek from them — you cannot find.

You deserved more than you got. Your words today keep you free, keep you safe, and keep you on a path of healing. Don’t change your story because that’s what other people want you to do.

I am proud of your determination to move on without anger. Your ability to seek the goal of reality is an admirable one. Continue on that path.

As an angel told me once, “UCU.” By allowing God to focus on you (you see you) you can take your eyes off the offenders — you have no control or place there anyway.

Those that cling to anything outside of God’s love, which fully endorses the truth, is false religion. False religion is worthless. The prophet Jeremiah said,

8 But look, you are trusting in deceptive words that are worthless.
9 “Will you steal and murder, commit adultery and perjury, burn incense to Baal and follow other gods you have not known, 10 and then come and stand before me in this house, which bears my Name, and say, “We are safe”-safe to do all these detestable things? 11 Has this house, which bears my Name, become a den of robbers to you?

But I have been watching! declares the Lord.

jeremiah 7 (niv)

Remeber, love, that God is watching all things, he knows all things, and he cares deeply for you. Parents lie all the time. It makes me sad. However, it cannot change our story unless we allow it to.

Keep staying on the right side of God.

All love!

Originally published at on April 16, 2024.




We write openly about our very traumatic childhoods. Understanding. Understanding. Unquestionable understanding. That's the message God has for you always!